You’ve made your VIP list and popped the question to your besties. Your wedding party is taking shape, and you’re beginning to get an idea of what your head table will look like! But have you considered that, along with all this excitement, your bridesmaids and groomsmen might be experiencing a level of uncertainty about their role in your wedding? What are the direct (and indirect) responsibilities of party members? RiverStone is here to help you survive these uncertainties and to clue you in on some important “Do’s” and “Don’ts” before the big day arrives. Share these guidelines with your friends and family, and they’ll be on their way to killer Bridesmaid and Groomsman status in no time!

Guidelines for the Wedding Party:

  1. Respond to Invitations

Remember, important people will be counting on you when you step into this role! This does not mean you’re required to attend every wedding-associated event. Life is full of unexpected circumstances and commitments. However, it is your job to communicate your availability for all wedding-related activities in a timely manner. Engagement parties, showers, bachelor & bachelorette parties, rehearsal, and the main event…do not be the person the bride or groom has to track down for an RSVP!

  1. Be On Time

Be responsible for yourself and your own punctuality! This is one of the best ways to eliminate stress for your bride or groom. Many people will be adhering to the same wedding timeline. Being where you supposed to be when you are supposed to be there will ensure that others can do their jobs effectively and the event runs as smoothly as possible. If you think this might be a challenge for you, set extra alarms or reminders. Whatever it takes to BE ON TIME…DO IT.

  1. Keep it Classy.

You’re creating memories that will last a lifetime! So enjoy yourself…but don’t get sloppy. As you celebrate the recent nuptials, remember you are representing some of the people you care about most.

  1. Be Responsible for Your Personal Items

Dresses, tuxes, dress shirts, shoes, cufflinks, makeup, bobby pins, jewelry, suspenders, etc. Be responsible for your personal items before, during, and after the event. That means packing ahead. Remembering all your pieces. Bringing appropriate bags to contain your stuff. Keeping track of your things throughout the event, and cleaning up after yourself as much as possible.

  1. Be Educated about Venue Rules/Policies and Procedures

Can you bring in outside food or alcohol? Will there be a cash bar? What about pets, fog machines, confetti, silly string, stunts, pranks, or demonstrations? Ask ahead to find out the rules of the venue before you decide to surprise your bride or groom with any of these amenities. Forethought and insider knowledge will guarantee the most enjoyable experience for everyone involved.